A year ago, everything was falling apart in my life. A year later having experienced a major move from Australia back to the UK, redundancy, selling an apartment in London, seeing my son move to the USA with his mother, the loss of my brother Paul unexpectedly and suddenly one day before his 48th birthday, my divorce and my mum needing hospital treatment I sometimes wonder how I managed to get through 2008 all in one piece, but I did. My smile never completely deserted me though and my close friends and family stuck by me through the deep dark days and nights. There were positive experiences though during the year and they helped me mostly maintain my 'the glass is half-full' optimism that gets me through life.
Everything now seems so much calmer for me and life is getting more positive than negative. People often talk about life being a challenge and perhaps this is not the approach to take. Life is about experiences, some of them good, great, fantastic and maybe unbelievable and yet some them are sad, depressing, painful and maybe unbelievable too. The sum of all these experiences make up a life. No-one really gets 'issued' challenges and in the same way they don't really get 'offered' opportunities. People find the challenges and the opportunities themselves. Is it fate to be in the right place/wrong place at the right time/wrong time? Perhaps yes, but then again perhaps no. Is it possible everything that happens to us is of our own making? I guess what I am trying to say is that we should stop looking to blame and start to accept the things that happen to us. Maybe if we embrace the good with the bad we can have a better understanding on how to truly experience a better life and that perhaps this would rub off on the people we love and care for.
Going through a bad patch in life has the potential to make your life perpetually miserable or it can make you realise that there are many aspects of a life that make it worth living, no matter how bad the circumstances might be!
Give someone a hug today...when was a hug ever negative?!
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